Celebrating Womanhood – Can You Have it All? #WomenRock
“These days it seems that some people want us to be ashamed of being women. They want us to believe that we’re less: less intelligent, less important, less human. There is so much negativity out there. For one day, we want to flood the internet with positive messages about women. On September 16, 2012 we’re going to write positive blog posts about women, and we invite you to join us.”
So today I’m participating in celebrating womanhood!
Sometimes it seems we are being sold some real estate on the moon. You can do anything, you can be anything, you can achieve anything. While I’m thrilled the glass ceiling has mostly been shattered and issues of equal pay and equal representation are, if not being resolved, at least being discussed, I have to admit to being somewhat disenchanted with this idea of being able to do it all.
The reality is, you can’t.
I don’t mean to be a nay-sayer and really, this isn’t a negative post, but there comes a time where you have to grow up and decide not just what you want to be but who you want to be.
We are presented with this idea that womanhood is beautiful and easy. But we’re our own worst enemies. I’ve never been treated as badly by men as I have by women. From hazing in the work place to the condescending looks of those who thought I wasn’t “feminist” enough. If you work, you’re letting your family down, if you’re home with your family, you aren’t living up to your potential. What exactly is a girl supposed to do?
What I’ve learned is that through balance and a little more maturity I can be anything I want. The difference is now I know what that is and I understand the value of compromise. I think historically women have had to find ways to navigate the world around us a little subversively. We’ve had to squirrel money so we have a little extra for ourselves and we’ve had to smile when all we want to do is punch some asshat in the face. Its taught us that there’s always a solution, no matter what the issue, you just might have to take a more circumlocutions route!
For me, I want to be a mother, a wife, a lover, an artist, an entrepreneur, a number cruncher, a gardener, a writer. Every day I do a little bit of all of those things, somehow weaving them together to create the person writing this. A scatterbrained, flakey, artistic, anal, business woman with an artistic outlet.